3 Common Mistakes People Make When Writing Their Vows (And How to Avoid Them)
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1. Waiting Until the Last Minute
You don’t want to be scribbling your vows the night before your wedding while running on nerves and zero sleep.
Why it’s a mistake:
You’ll likely forget the heartfelt stories or details you wanted to include. Plus, rushed vows often come out sounding generic.
Fix it:
Start early. Give yourself space to reflect and revise. Jot down ideas weeks in advance, then shape them into your final vows closer to the day.
2. Turning It Into a Stand-Up Routine (Or an Inside Joke Dump)
Yes, humor is great — but your vows shouldn’t feel like a comedy set or a string of inside jokes only the two of you understand.
Why it’s a mistake:
Too many jokes can dilute the emotion, and private references can leave your guests confused or disconnected.
Fix it:
Balance humor with sincerity. A well-placed laugh is lovely, but always bring it back to the heart of what you're promising.
3. Forgetting the Actual Vow Part
A lot of people write beautiful love letters or recount their entire relationship history — and then forget to make any actual promises!
Why it’s a mistake:
Vows are about commitment. Without a clear promise or intention, you miss the point of the moment.
Fix it:
End with real, meaningful promises. They don’t have to be traditional — just true to who you are. Think:
“I promise to always be on your team.”
“I vow to keep learning and growing with you.”
Final Thought:
Your vows don’t have to be perfect — they just have to be yours. Speak from the heart, keep it real, and don’t be afraid to get a little vulnerable. That’s where the magic lives.
